We are faced with struggles, so we try to control the uncontrollable, but this brings even more stress. Better to stay in the zone of what we can control – ourselves
It was out of my control. The decision on how they would treat me was beyond my control.
Have you ever been in that situation?
You are at the mercy of other people’s judgment of you.
We see it all the time in the legal system. The defendant awaits the decision of the judge. Everyone in the courtroom has an opinion, but none of those opinions matter because the judge sitting in their seat of power has the final say. Guilty or innocent.
But we are all judges to some degree. We all make judgments about various people. We are presented evidence, and we weigh it against our own experience and values. We pronounce a verdict.
It’s a verdict that we will hold on to until we are presented with more evidence. Then we have to retry the defendant and of course, because we have already made a judgment changing our opinion involves an acknowledgment that we had got it wrong.
‘Know me before you judge me’ is a line from a Mental Health promotion we had here in New Zealand many years ago, but how many of us are genuinely willing to get in the ditch of another life and know the story that shaped the soul.
Who or what are you trying to control?
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