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Better boundaries?

You need better boundaries. How many have said this to you? How about a better knowing of yourself first? #boundaries
Better boundaries come from the inside out
Three types of boundaries
1. Imposed boundaries.
2. Adopted boundaries.
3. Internalised Owned boundaries.
 
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I want to stir you up.

I want to stir you up. Not to stir up anger or trouble. Actually, quite the opposite, but to love and good works.
So often I hear in people a tiredness, a lethargy, even a complete deadness to something that sits resident within their souls.
Maybe they have been put down, criticised, mocked, or ignored. They might have shared something deep, but it wasn’t listened to well.
 
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Unburdened From What Has Been

We carry so much load, but what if we were unburdened? Perhaps the donkey might learn to dance light and free.
 
It's an image that tells a story.
The story of a heavy laden down camel carrying a load of straw and the little proverb 'the final straw that broke the camel's back'
It's the load. The burden. It's the feather.
The weight, awkwardness, and struggle that eventually takes one out.
What are you carrying?
What weighs upon your thinking and bends upon your back?
 
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The Problem is The Problem - Not the Person

We all have problems, but we can over-personalise them. But the problem is the problem. The problem is not the person.
 
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To Forgive Is to Remember… Differently

Do you find it easier to slide in your thinking to the negative than to the good?
I need help and I think you do too.
Not so much to keep focusing on the positive, but to keep focused on truth – God’s truth, how God sees everything.
How you talk about God is how you talk about everything.
I need help to balance my brain with a kind of grounded God reality that keeps me running true and straight.
Not too much negative that might drag me away and under waves of despair.
 

The Real Problem

We have obvious problems, but real problems, the ones that drive us to unwell ness, can only be resolved by deep soul work. What's going on underneath?
We have problems. Every one reading this will have multiple problems.
I just got news from a family member that the biopsies came back negative for cancer. A huge problem has been resolved. Relief floods my soul.
Some problems are obvious. I need food for dinner, a home to live in, a job. I need a friend who won't use and abuse me. I need security.
They are very real problems.
 
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An Empty Love Tank

You’ve got nothing left. An empty love tank, weightless and vulnerable. But you want love. Who and what will fill the need?
The water tank was empty. I opened up the lid on the tank and immediately I could smell the residue of silt lying on the bottom of the tank.
No rain had entered the tank for weeks and slowly the water had drained out until now it was empty. Any water in the tank was dirty, putrid, and vile.
I have talked with people who are like this water tank. They have drained their life, emptied their love tank out for the sake of others’ needs, and now there is an emptiness. Often there is a bitterness, resentment and a feeling of being used.
 
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I Need a Rescue Plan

We like to be self-reliant, but at times we need help, so we need a rescue plan.
 
 
I got stuck in the mud a few days ago.
I had been driving my small truck in the countryside and decided to do a u-turn. I crossed over the road and on to the soil and I got stuck in the mud. I hadn’t realised that it was so wet and mucky.
I instantly stopped, as I knew that if I kept trying to get out, I would just dig myself in further.
 
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My Sin is Ever Before Me

Our brains can keep reminding us. ‘My Sin is Ever Before Me’ writes the poet, but what if we had a purifier?
 
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Keep my life simple

I’ve got too much going on in my life, but I want to keep my life simple, so I discard the complex.
 
He’s a fictional character and I like the freedom he has.
His name is Jack reacher and is the creation of Lee Child.
Jack Reacher has the life of a nomad. He wanders from town to town and solves problems, generally with a lot of violence. That part is not what I’m keen on, but there is something unique about his life.
It’s extremely simple.
He travels mostly by hitchhiking, and all he carries is an ATM Card and a toothbrush.
That’s all.
If he needs new clothes, he buys them. He doesn’t carry a bag or even a cell phone.
He is free from all the possessions that we would normally call essential. His possessions don’t own him.
Sounds good doesn’t it? Maybe, but he doesn’t have a spouse, girlfriend, kids or relational commitments.
It’s a simple life, which has an appeal, but it’s a life of a loner.
Does this appeal to something in you? 
Is there something within you that would love to walk away from the complexity of stuff?
I’ve shifted house three times in the last three years and I have got rid of a lot of things. Trailer loads.
It’s freeing. It’s liberating to cut your life down to the minimum.
I don’t think I will ever get to the ‘Jack Reacher’ phase, although I wouldn’t mind trying it for a few weeks to see what it would be like.
 
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