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Can you Live with a Narcissist? Six Suggestions

Can you live with a narcissist? Yes, but it might just kill you.
 
Or it might just starve you from savouring life to the fullest.
One of the most interesting quotes I have come across about stress is this one from French journalist Jean-Louis Servan-Schreiber
What I fear most about stress is not that it kills, but that it prevents one from savouring life. Jean-Louis Seven-Schreiber
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How to Pray for a Narcissist: 10 Ways

I want to pray, but don’t know how. How to Pray for a Narcissist. It begins with honesty. It prays for light. 
 
Can a Narcissist change? 
That’s a question many people ask. 
 
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Satan: The Perfect Narcissist

What does perfect narcissism look like? We can see it in the evil of Satan. 
 
I read a list the other day about the characteristics of those with narcistic personality disorder.
Grandiose Sense of Self-Importance: They believe they are superior and special, deserving of exceptional treatment and recognition.
Exploitative Behavior: They manipulate and take advantage of others to get what they want, often without remorse or guilt. 
Arrogance and Conceit: They often come across as arrogant and boastful, displaying a sense of superiority.
Difficulty Handling Criticism: They react negatively to any perceived criticism, becoming defensive and angry. 
Preoccupation with Success and Power: They are often fixated on fantasies of success, power, brilliance, or beauty.
Entitlement: An unreasonable expectation of favorable treatment and special privileges, believing they deserve more than others. 
Lack of Empathy: Difficulty understanding or sharing the feelings of others, often dismissing or invalidating their emotions. 
Need for Admiration and Attention: A constant craving for praise, validation, and attention from others, often seeking it through manipulation or grandstanding.
Envy: Experiencing envy of others or believing that others are envious of them.
Unwillingness to Accept Responsibility: Blaming others for their mistakes or failures, rather than taking accountability for their actions.
I think I could add an eleventh characteristic and this comes from those who have been entrapped by a narcissist into a long-term relationship.
11. An Attractive mask: They have such a beautiful, alluring presence to them that it’s not until you’re deep into a relationship with them that you are able to see behind the facade.
 
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Narcissism A God-shaped hole

There is a God-shaped hole in me. A narcissism entrancement holds me, but I can break the spell when I invite Jesus into the void.
 
There once was an Australian sitcom that I used to watch. It was called Kath and Kim. 
The two central characters were Kath, the mother, and her daughter Kim. In the series, there was a line repeatedly said from mother to daughter. 
Look at meLook at meLook at moi (‘me’, but in a deepening lengthy tone)
Kath would say these words to get her daughter’s attention.
 
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You Prepare a Table Before Me

I worry about what’s ahead, but I have a shepherd who prepares a table before me, so I wait, trust and see.  
 
A friend recently sent a job offering to me. 
It was to come to a town called Echuca in Victoria Australia and be a snake catcher. 
Yes, you read it right. Snake catcher. 
My friend works in a local school as a caretaker and part of his job is to make sure the school grounds and buildings are safe for the children. 
So he regularly is on the lookout for snakes.
He clears away areas that snakes might want to live in. Nets and fences are installed to stop snakes from entering the school grounds. 
He prepares a safe place for little children.
I like this illustration. It’s a picture of providential care. 
Have you ever had someone prepare somewhere safe for you? 
Say you are going to visit Aunt Mildred and you’re going to stay the night. 
She will most likely prepare in advance. 
She may make the bed, prepare some food, and get rid of any snakes! (especially if you live in Australia)
When you arrive, you are welcomed into what they have prepared. You may feel a little embarrassed by the fuss they have put into this welcome. 
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I’m Anxious God

Worries, fears, and anxieties can all bring us to a place where we pray ‘I’m anxious God’ but there is hope. I went to see my Doctor the other day for my routine checkup. ‘Anxiety’? he questioned. I replied ‘No, everything is fine there’Read this post here👁️‍🗨️ About Barry Pearman https://turningthepage.co.nz/im-anxious-god/Signup to email newsletter https://turningthepage.co.nz/✉️ Contact Barry Direct https://turningthepage.co.nz/contact-us/👉Donate to Turning the Page https://turningthepage.co.nz/give/#anxiety #worry #fear

Not my Circus, Not my Monkeys

The first time I heard the Polish proverb “Not my circus, not my monkeys” I felt quite shocked, but digging deeper, I understood what they were saying. 
I heard it said by a husband about his wife. 
It felt callous. 
It felt cold and I still think it was. 
That he would not want to help engage with the struggles she was facing. 
To say “Not my circus, not my monkeys” is to declare that you don’t want to be dragged into the drama of the other person’s issues—that you’re not getting involved. 
I get the boldness of the statement, and the need at times to be quite cold and confrontational.
Some people seem to want to pass on the drama of their own life to others.
 
 
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I’m Building a Wall

It's ok to build a wall. It's ok to have boundaries. Just don't make it a prison cell. Don't make it a place of self-made solitary confinement🔔 Subscribe to empower your mental health through faith, hope and love.Read this post https://turningthepage.co.nz/building-a-wall-setting-boundaries-in-relationships/👁️‍🗨️ About Barry Pearman https://turningthepage.co.nz/about-barry-pearman/

She crossed a line

She crossed a line with her words, a line that was getting thinner with every wag of the tongue, but what could be done to help them both?  
 
It was the evening of the very first day of the year (2025). A beautiful summer’s day here in New Zealand.
But in this quiet, I suddenly heard screaming and yelling. Every second word was the F word.
I looked down the road and saw a very large man woman and a man on the pavement.
He was kneeling on the ground in front of her. It was almost like he was praying/ begging in front of her. She was towering above him and shouting at him.
Words and more ‘F’s’.
More words, more ‘F’s’.
It was violence. Verbal violence.
 
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Even If It Does Me Harm

We give and give, even if it does us harm, but what if learned the limits and established a line?
 
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